“I once heard it said that everyone needs love-and if they’re denied, they’ll find it, or a reasonable substitute somewhere.”- Richard Paul Evans, The Gift
Haven’t we all substituted something or someone in our lives. We all have things we are looking to hide from, forget, block out, numb, or even replace. That’s human nature.
Most people turn to drugs or alcohol as a way to numb the pain or block out things most wish to forget. Drugs and alcohol are nothing more than a mere substitution or alternative if you will to working through it. Sometimes the substances gives one a rush or a feeling that makes you feel alive, even if it is only an illusion from the fact that it’s actually wearing your body down. In one’s mind, drugs and alcohol are the perfect substitute for real happiness, even if it is for a little while.
One night stands, casual hook-ups, and serial dating are all a form of substitution. Those who are missing out on love and compainionship chooses to substitute that for a few hours of pretending. Pretending you have someone who cares, pretending they won’t be gone when you wake up, or even pretending that’s the life you want to live. Floating day by day or person to person in an attempt to fill a void.
We are all guilty of it one way or another, substituting something . I have found that writing is the perfect substitute for therapy. I don’t have to spend thousands of dollars talking to someone or having someone fix me and work through my issues. I don’t need to pay someone to tell me what I already know. I chose to write. I chose to talk and work my way through it by writing. I found something that works for me. Maybe that the real definition of substitution. If something or someone isn’t working out or not meant for you, find another way or another means.
Substitution doesn’t always have to mean replacing or pretending that (whatever it is) is something it isn’t. Maybe sustittuion mean finding another solution, something better that the original intent.